FEARS ABOUT PERFORMANCE

As with the ass-person, so too with the penis-person, being of good consciousness, open, wanting to explore and cooperate- with these come knowledge and pleasurable sensations; touching and rubbing in joyful ways. Once your penis is in your partner's rectum, all this will tend to happen by itself; just let go and explore what feels good.

If you haven't done it before, you might feel clumsy and confused; body motions used in anal intercourse aren't used many places outside sex, so how can you be expected to just know them? If you feel uncomfortable, tell your partner you're exploring and maybe they'll be able to help you out.

One big worry is that you might be embarrassed or that you'll fail. This is called "Performance anxiety:" you can't get it up, you can't keep it up, and/or you can't carry through to climax. The penis is sensitive to worry, like a barometer it goes up and down with your anxiety level (among other things, such as fatigue). In other words, if you're too upset or too unsteady, it's pretty hard to fake it with your cock. And once you've "failed," it makes it even harder.