After insertion, give a luxurious amount of time in becoming used to it. Let him worry about what to do, and you just pay attention to the warmth and you just pay attention to the sensualness of it. Try masturbating - this is a regular part of the intercourse, and may surprise you with its explosive intensity.

Enjoyment in being the ass-person comes with letting go, into the experience. It's not being passive in our cultural sense, since your partner can be lying still with your making all the motions. Rather it's receiving and giving, their care and yours, your bodily/emotional desires and theirs, in various combination. It's reaching and creating with your excitement, so that your union becomes fusion of give and take, in and out- a greater wholeness of being.

You can be entirely still or jumping all over, or anywhere in between. Most of the body motions are easy to learn, such as thrusting and grinding. It can get a little complicated at times, however, since if you both move your motions must be coordinated. The easiest thing to do is rotate your rear in a circular way, as he thrusts. A tricky and subtle still is to learn how to squeeze your anus, tight and loose, to fondle his pleasure more and start vibrating, glowing ripples up and down your rectum. You'll know if you're moving in good ways, because you'll feel a rhythmic flow inside and out. You'll begin to forget where you are, as your movements melt into your partner's.