But actually, this penis-sensitivity can be seen as a good thing: it makes you be honest. There's a big difference between performing in intercourse and sharing. I'm not writing about performance at all- if you want to put on a show, entertain your partner and prove your skills, you'll have to look elsewhere. If you want to be together, mixing with your partner, giving and taking as two growing people - then you'll want to be honest, clear, human, and most important, yourself. And then, if you go limp, you go limp. Big deal! That's part of being yourself at the time. You're scared, uncertain, confused; these are important feelings; don't deny them! People manage to get themselves into a fix by making things worse then they are. Worries in sex are common, human things; we all fail, including me. By discovering you can just be you, wherever you're at during the moment, it won't matter so much; it'll be just fine.

If you've tried before and failed a lot, you probably feel pretty bad about it. "I'm a loser; ain't it awful." Well, you'll never get over it with that attitude. What keeps people from doing what they want is "I can't do it; I'm super anxious that I'll just fail again." This vicious circle of failure, fear of failure- needs to be broken, and the first step is removing the emotional punch of "failing".