Many of us are taught to be ashamed out our rear ends, of the things that happen there, and the sensations of this area. the anus can be an erotic place; most children experience pleasure in shitting, but many adults ignore these feelings, in their rush to get the act over with as little guilt as possible. The rear end becomes an ignored and mysterious place. The anus is usually held tight, and becomes the site of problems like hemorrhoids, yet the feelings are still there. Awareness and conscious control of the anus can be learned, although this takes time to discover.

Look at it as exploring something new, part of your own body. The first thing is, how do you feel about your anus and rectum? Are they a part of you, or do you emotionally push them away? If you feel bad about your ass, that it's a dirty place, this is where your explorations must begin. Explore your anus, to discover how it feels and that it's not dirty, that you can touch it and not get hurt. You can do this two ways: by yourself or with a friend/partner/lover.